I had absolutely no idea what he was talking about when he first launched into it. Colours and emotions were tossed about. There was evident contempt for having to spend time out of his busy day to talk about something that he’ll “never use”. The funny thing was, we had this great chat for over 10 minutes about how he’d spent his day. Far more detailed than the usual response:
Me: “How was your day?” Him: “Fine.” Me: “What did you do?” Him: “Nothing.”
Despite the sheen of negativity, it was clear he had been engaged and listening, because upon further research on my part, he had accurately explained the varying states of self-regulation as popularized by Leah Kuypers in The Zones of Regulation.
Tomorrow we work on self-reflection in an effort to spend more time in the green zone.